Embracing Authenticity in Professional Settings

I've been told more than once in my life to adapt, to mold myself to fit the expectations of others. But there’s a fine line between adapting and losing sight of who we truly are. Today, I want to share a story about one of the two times I worked for a multi-level marketing (MLM) company and how it challenged my sense of authenticity.

Recently, I shared in a LinkedIn Live session that I am entirely on the left-hand side of the DISC profile. I thrive on data, I crave structure, and I am driven by a need to Get Shit Done! Yes, you heard me right—I swore. I don't do it often, but to emphasize how much I cringe at unnecessary delays, it needed to be said.

During my stint with this MLM, I was encouraged to be more personable and to start conversations with a cheerful "Hey, Girlfriend!" (Envision me with the smile and head tilt that comes with this delivery) Now, if you know me, you’d know that this phrase has never, and I mean never, come out of my mouth, except when I share this story. It’s just not who I am. I might say "Y'all" on occasion, but "Hey, Girlfriend!"? That’s a stretch.

In MLM language, this suggestion from my upline demonstrated a complete disconnect from my personality and the way I connect with others. She had no understanding of me personally, nor did it seem she cared to. Until you really know me, I'm the quiet one in the room. But if you ask my opinion on something, you’d better be ready for the truth—whether it’s positive or negative. I’ve been told by managers that I’m too tough on coworkers. Yes, that’s me: a go-getter who expects results.

Thankfully, I eventually found my true calling in project management, technology, and operations. Here, I can geek out on data all day long, while also being a realist about performance. Yes, I’ve had to tone down the harshness of my messages at times, but I’ve learned how to deliver the truth effectively. I became the one called in to troubled projects because I wasn’t afraid to tell teams and stakeholders what the real problems were.

Now don't get me wrong—this isn’t an open invitation to treat everyone poorly. Developing the skill of tailoring your message to your audience is critical if you want to succeed. Being authentic doesn’t mean being abrasive; it means being true to who you are while also being considerate of others.

This experience made me reflect deeply on the importance of staying true to myself, especially in professional settings. While being personable is important, it’s equally crucial that our words and actions reflect our authentic selves. Pretending to be someone we’re not, just to fit a mold, can feel disingenuous and exhausting.

Check out these guest sessions from my Helping You Soar YouTube Channel.
Breaking the Ice Without Slipping
True to You: The Business Benefits of Authenticity